Yesterday was a great day. I worked really hard to go out my way to please Asher. He did not have any idea of what I was doing, but things were very pleasant around our house. We did not have anything to do yesterday morning so the girls and I cleaned our house until it was spic and span. Asher even helped because he did not know what I was doing for him. I think the biggest change was that I did not nag him about anything and I was nice even when he got extremely frustrated because Macy peed on his side of the bed, again.

I know it sounds from my writings that the atmosphere around my house has been very hostile lately. That is not so. I have just noticed that Asher and I have gotten a bit terse when we have gotten frustrated with each other lately. That worries me whenever that happens because of my previous relationships before Asher. It seemed like with almost every one that it was always better in the beginning before we had ever had any real arguments. The level of respect desinigrated because of how we talked to each other. (Relationships are not usually real mature in high school.) From those experiences I learned that protecting the level of respect and friendship is vital to a relationship.


I think as women we don't realize or we forget how much power in the atmosphere of our relationship. We are natural responders to our husbands. That is how God made us. They initiate and we respond. That is how God made us. So when our husbands are feeling a bit grumpy it seems innate to react back to them. It is truly amazing to see how fast a husband will turn around and start acting in a Godly fashion if he sees his wife doing it first.

This is a good principle for husbands who are already saved, too. (1 Peter 3:1+2) Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives.